The principles that form the basis of my work were borne out of what I have discovered over the last 3 years, living here on the hill, out of the everyday hustle and bustle. When I stopped working and came here I naturally started to slow down and became more aware of my body’s needs – when to sleep, when to eat.
With no external timetable of getting up for work, sitting in an office all day then going home for dinner and bed, I could really get into feeling when my body demanded food, exercise, recharge and rest. And I started to notice how the things that I did affected me – whether they made me happy or sad, fulfilled or frustrated, energised or depleted, fearful or empowered.
Then I got poorly. Nothing major, just a bout of flu that laid me up in bed for a week or so and forced me to put everything down. Everything. My work, my play, my worries, my fears and my attitudes. And when I recovered, I examined what I had put down, and decided what I wanted to pick up again. I set my self some criteria and asked some questions about each thing:
- Does it energise me or drain me?
- Is it light or heavy to hold?
- Does the completion of it make me feel satisfied or just relieved that it was finished?
- Does it take more effort to start the task than to complete it?
- What need is being met by the task and is there another way to meet that need?
Do you get the drift? I looked at what my needs were, and then rebuilt my life accordingly. The tasks that I enjoyed and was fulfilled by, I picked back up with relish and attacked them with the joy of a small boy feeding a hungry duck. With the tasks that didn’t meet the criteria, I asked myself what the underlying need was that meant I needed to do that task, and how else that need could be met.
I found that I was able to meet the need in several other ways. For example:
- If the job I was doing brought me money but not satisfaction, I looked at what did satisfy me and asked myself how I could make money doing that
- If I was stressing about meeting external timescales because of my personal rhythms, I looked at how I could take control of the timescale and do things in my own time
- If I felt that the energy expended on a task was greater than the benefit gained from doing the task I looked at another way of achieving the outcome.
Then I started to play with things. I wrote a set of affirmations that led me towards happiness and satisfaction rather than moroseness and stress. I threw away my institutionalised guilt and shame about not working and living like everyone else and sought joy in small tasks like chopping wood, baking a delicious cake and making music with my friends. I really looked hard into myself to determine what would fulfil me and make me happy.
And finally it came. The apex of the triangle, the intersection of the Venn rings. The things that made me feel joyful, fulfilled, energised, purposeful and meaningful. And those things I turned into Slowcoaching.
So I found I was living to 4 principles. And because during that time I found the greatest joy in making music, my own music rather than the music of other people that I had played up to that point, I aligned my principles to the creation of beautiful music.
the 4 slowcoaching principles
- Tune in
Raising awareness to understand our needs, the needs of those around us, where are our strengths and weaknesses and what are our goals. This can include looking at balance, purpose and limiting beliefs. From this we can better understand ourselves and our relationship with others, and are more confident in our ability to communicate. We can also focus on our strengths and determining how to best use them.
- Set your tempo
Setting our values, choosing our attitude, finding our motivation and determining what actions we take to achieve what we want. Setting our own timescale, rhythm and tempo to do it. This allows us to take responsibility and accountability for our actions, behaviours and outcomes.
- Free play
Observing our inner and outer worlds to be curious, learn and develop our skills. Finding what meets our and other’s needs and what doesn’t. This allows us to take a positive, open approach to life and work that gives us permission to deal with conflict, take risks, make mistakes and grow. Making our way through the world using improvisation, innovation and curiosity as key tools to support us.
- Create your grand opus
Increase performance, achieve our goals and find fulfilment. Encouraging everyone to be the best they can be. Understand our gifts and how we can best give them to the world.
Work with me if you:
- are stuck in a rut in your current role or feel frustrated with your life
- get just enough needs met to keep you where you are but want more
- have unfocused ambition
- have ended up where you are without having made positive choices
- feel little alignment between your personal values and your work
- feel that something is missing in your work or life
- have to hide parts of your true self to be successful
Work with me to get:
- greater awareness of your personal values and commitment
- stronger appreciation of your strengths and gifts
- deeper understanding of what you enjoy and dislike about your work and life
- greater ability to make positive choices
- opening up of dreams and intentions to realise your desires
- alignment of values and work to find your meaningful path